"Calm down!"

Hi Reader, Has anyone ever told you to calm down in the middle of a hard moment? Maybe your spouse or a colleague? How'd it go? Maybe it fired you up even more. Or made you grit your teeth and seethe, "I am calm!" 🙋🏻♀️ Being told to calm down — especially mid-meltdown, yours or theirs — makes you almost need to do the opposite. There's a special kind of rage reserved just for that phrase. For most of my life, I thought this reflexive rage meant something was wrong with me. A well-adjusted...