Hi Reader,

You know those days when you start off regulated and peaceful, but then...

You're trying to get everyone out the door, no one knows where their shoes are and insists that they don’t need a sweater despite the frost you can all see from your window, and suddenly you're snapping at small things.

This isn't "moodiness" or "not trying hard enough."

I've been thinking a lot about this lately. About how we're supposed to be these perfectly regulated beings, peacefully floating through motherhood.

And then we feel guilty when we snap, are frazzled, feel all over the place, even though it is perfectly normal. Especially when there are little ones running around.

We go from perfectly regulated to frazzled, exhausted, and ready to snap. Then we feel guilty.

We're not just in fight/flight/freeze/fawn -- we're in all of them at once, doing some kind of nervous system back and forth that no one taught us how to navigate.

And you know what? It’s ok. Common. There is nothing wrong with you when you feel like you are emotionally jumping around.

I'll share more about mixed states and dysregulation next week - about why we can feel stuck between fight, flight, freeze, and fawn and how this shows up specifically in motherhood. And how understanding them is key to finding more peace in motherhood.

But, until then, know that your messy nervous system is welcome here. You’re not alone.

Yours in regulation,

P.S. Next week I’ll be bringing real life solutions for your nervous system to you and a special gift. Be on the look out.